Why Some Lives Really Work And Others Don’t. Part 1

“Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does. It is up to you to give [life] a meaning.” – Jean-Paul Sartre.

Make A Move

“Ask God’s blessing on your work. But don’t ask him to do it for you.” – Dame Flora Robson

Are you proactive?

Do you take positive, initiating steps in life or do you just react to situations?

Do you view yourself as victims to people and circumstances or as active participants who take steps to influence outcomes?

If there is a problem in life, the world, or within – do you do something to solve it?

Do you see yourself as part of the solution?

Do you ask yourself the question: “What can I do to make this situation better?”

Personal Responsibility

When we hear the word responsibility we often think of it in terms of “doing your duties.” We often think of being responsible as equivalent to taking out the trash or doing your taxes on time. Psychological responsibility or responsibility for our lives however means much more than that.

It means that you and I are responsible not just for duties or jobs, but also for our entire existence.

For example, you are not only responsible for taking out the trash, but also for being in the situation which includes taking out the trash how you feel about taking out the trash and for choosing not to do all the other things you could be doing instead of taking it out.

If you do not like taking out the trash, that is your problem, not the problem of whoever you think is making you do it. If you agree to perform the task, then it is your responsibility. Not your fault, maybe, but your responsibility.

Own Your Life

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Your life is yours and no others.

You can’t blame anyone for what you do with it.

You can blame them for what they do to you, but you cannot blame them for what you do with what they do to you.

Like Owning A Car

If you own your car, then you are responsible for it. If you own it, then you are able to control it. It is yours and yours only.

  • You can paint it
  • You can put a new engine in it
  • You can set it on fire
  • You can let it rust
  • You can do whatever you want

It is yours. It is under your control. Owning your life is similar. People who own their lives take control of their feelings. How they respond, react, or initiate is totally up to them. Even addicts can take ownership of their addiction.They cannot do any better, but they can do better at handling not being able to do any better. They get help. Responsibility and ownership means that we have to take control, even of being out of control. No blame, no victims. Winners take the cards they are dealt and play them well.

 “The final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” – Anne Frank

*Sources: 9 Things You Simply Must Do To Succeed In Love And Life. 

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