The Real Reason You Are Not Where You Want To Be In Life

Stop Lying to yourself

Are you exactly where you want to be in life?

If the answer is no…do you know why?

Are you willing to and ask yourself some hard questions to find out?

It is only after you are able to take personal responsibility for your actions that you can clearly see how you arrived at your current position in life. The good news is – this is also the first step toward being where you want to be.

Andy Stanly addresses this in his powerful book The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

Stop Lying to yourself

“Telling ourselves the truth is liberating, but it can be terrifying.”

See if you have the courage to ask yourself questions like these and be honest:

The real reason I lie about my family is…

The real reason I filed for divorce is…

The real reason we moved in together was…

The real reason I won’t call my kids is…

The real reason for my credit card debt is…

The real reason I drink so much is…

The real reason I quit going to church is…

When you are willing to come clean with yourself about the uncomfortable truth behind your choices, you’re on the verge of freedom.

“We can never be free as long as we’re in the habit of lying to ourselves about the reasons behind the choices we make and the paths we take.”

Telling yourself the truth will free you to move from where you are to where you want and need to be. You can’t get to where you need to be until you acknowledge where you actually are. As long as we lie to ourselves, we never really know where we are.

*Source via The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be


  • Great share! The truth can be really scary and I think this is one of the main reason why I never asked myself these kinds of questions before. I was too scared of the answer and I knew it would require me to change myself, or else I would feel like a failure. I didn’t start asking myself questions like this until I was at one of the lowest points in my life, where I felt like anything would be better.

    I agree with you, that until we can accept full responsibility for where we are, it will be very hard to get to where we want to be. Taking personal responsibility stops us from blaming things that are out of our control, and gives us the power to change.

    • Well said Will and thank you for your personal example. It can definitely be scary to ask ourselves these kinds of questions. It takes guts and courage to swallow our pride and take responsibility for our circumstances. It can be exciting at the same time though – knowing that you are finally in charge of where your life is going. The possibilities are endless.

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