How to get from “What Will People Think” to “I am enough” – The Gifts of Imperfection


 The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

by Brené Brown


“This important book is about the lifelong journey from ‘What will people think?’ to ‘I am enough.’ Brown’s unique ability to blend original research with honest storytelling makes reading The Gifts of Imperfection like having a long, uplifting conversation with a very wise friend who offers compassion, wisdom, and great advice.” — Harriet Lerner, New York Times best-selling author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Connection

Brené Brown courageously tackles the dark emotions that get in the way of leading a fuller life;


10 Popular Highlights From The Gifts of Imperfection


1. “Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line.”

2. Courage originally meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.”

3. “Shame needs three things to grow out of control in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgment.”

4. “If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.”

5. “Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.”

6. “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

7. “Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”

8. I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.

9. Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

10.The heart of compassion is really acceptance. The better we are at accepting ourselves and others, the more compassionate we become. Well, it’s difficult to accept people when they are hurting us or taking advantage of us or walking all over us. This research has taught me that if we really want to practice compassion, we have to start by setting boundaries and holding people accountable for their behavior.


It’s nice to come across a book that reminds us that it is ok to be human and make mistakes. This book gets you to face things such as self-love, authenticity, and owning up to being imperfect. If you’re anything like me you have the ability to drive yourself insane trying to make sure everything is perfect.

It’s easy for me to get down on myself when I make simple mistakes, forget things, or even when I don’t complete everything on my to-do list. This book serves as a great reminder that true authenticity involves accepting the imperfections of our lives and “owning our story” just the way it is.

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