HARD DECISIONS – 5 Easy Steps to Help You Decide Immediately



There are so many decisions to be made it can be overwhelming at times. It is said that we live in a day and age where we have more decisions to be made than any other generation before us. The next time you are at the grocery store or your local Wal-Mart just take a step back and look at the number of choices you have for each product, it’s crazy!

Some decisions  such as deciding which brand of bread to buy or which toothpaste really does whiten your teeth in 60 seconds can be hard to make –  but let’s face it these types of decisions are simply not life altering ones.

The REALLY hard decisions are the ones you know will change the outcome of your life in some way…the famous “fork in the road” so to speak. So how do you make these life altering decisions when so much is on the line?

The most helpful method I have ever come across comes from Dr. Henry Cloud’s Book “9 Things You Simply MUST DO to succeed in Love and life”. According to Dr. Cloud, your life is like a movie and he offers the following advice on how to make decisions you will not regret.

“Any one thing you do is only a scene in a larger movie. To understand that action, you have to play it out all the way to the end of the movie”.

Dr. Henry Cloud



  1. PLAY THE MOVIE –  never see any individual action as a singular thing in and of itself:
  2. EDIT YOUR LIFE MOVIE – after viewing the entire move you can decide whether you really want a particular scene in the movie of your life.
  3. DOES IT CHANGE THE ENDING IN A NEGATIVE WAY – if it alters the plot of your story, or takes you to other scenes that you do not want to live out, or even causes the movie itself to have a different ending than you had plotted, then you do not want it. No matter how inviting the scene itself is, you do not want it!
  4. DOES IT PRODUCE A HAPPY ENDING TO YOUR LIFE MOVIE – If it alters the plot of your story in a direction that you would want to go; if it creates later scenes that you would want to live out, then you might indeed want to add that scene. No matter how hard the scene itself is, you might want to choose it.
  5. BE A CRITIC – If you were merely a spectator of your life movie what advice would you give the main character (YOU)? Would you be yelling at the screen “you idiot! Don’t you see what’s about to happen!?…” or would you be cheering along? Another way to look at this is by pretending the main character is your friend. What advice would you give to them regarding the decision at hand? Many times we would be better off if we only took our own advice!


The Bottom Line:


  • You must not do anything without thinking of its ultimate consequence.
  • You must see every behavior as a link in a larger chain – a step in a direction that has a destination.
  • PLAY NOW, PAY LATER. PAY NOW, PLAY LATER. – We teach this to six-year-olds but how much better our adult lives would be if we would always live it out ourselves


What do you think? Do you make decisions this way? Do you have a different method that works for you? I would love to hear your comments below…


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