7 Ways to Make Your Child Feel Special

7 Ways to make your child feel special

This picture is a reminder at just how much value our kids place on moments like these. Those little moments that may seem ordinary or maybe even boring to an adult are flat-out magical to a child. As parents we only have so many of these moments with our children before they will be up and grown.

7 Ways to make your child feel special

 

Here are 7 ways to make your children feel special before those moments are gone…

 “They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

- Carol Buchner

1. Spend TIME with them. This is one of the easiest and yet hardest things to do sometimes. We live in such a fast paced society where everything was due yesterday and our to-do list is a mile long. Taking the time out of your busy schedule to get down on a kids level and just hang with them is one of those things in life you will never regret.

Set aside a day to bond with your child just the two of you, if you have more than one child make sure you do this with each child individually. Have your child get involved in the planning of the special day. This is a great way to support and share in their interests. There is something to be said about setting aside a specific time and making it into a “this is a time for only you” that will make your child feel unique and special.

Here’s some ideas to get you started!:

  • Visit a local museum
  • Bike ride
  • Watch airplanes take off
  • Have a picnic
  • Paint pottery
  • Take advantage of free building days at Home Depot
  • Movie & Pizza night
  • Miniature golf
  • Ice Skating
  • Photo Booths (the little booths at the mall, that way you can bring home a keepsake)
  • Read books together at the library
  • Ice Cream Sundae night

2. Care about what they care about. If they are involved in any sporting activities show up for the games and cheer them on. Take some time out of your busy schedule and devote a few minutes to helping them practice on their extra curricular activity, ask them about what they like about it and tell them how much you admire their hard work.

Those little girls in dance, tell them how beautiful they are and don’t be too proud to have them try to teach you their newest move. Even if you have absolutely no interest in the activity they enjoy try to learn to enjoy it for their sake.

3. Notice them. Ever notice how many times kids say the phrase, “Look at me”? They want to be noticed. They want to know they are special, pretty, strong, important, funny…that they are incredible! Go ahead and look your

child in their eyes and tell them how beautiful they are, when they make you giggle make sure you tell them how funny they are and how much they brighten up your days. Tell them how lucky you are that you were blessed with such a special and unique child.

4. Create traditions. Make fun memories & create traditions that encourage family togetherness. We all want our children to one day look back at their childhoods with warm memories of a time they felt loved and special.

 

“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.”
Charles R. Swindoll

We as parents have the control of making that happen and if we are lucky they will one day do the same for our grandchildren. The traditions can be as small as going on a walk on Saturday mornings, backyard camp outs, or baking cookies together at Christmas, the possibilities are endless!

5. Compliment them. Find qualities that you love about them & compliment them in front of others. If you notice they gave something up to give another why not tell your spouse how proud that made you in front of them, or tell their grandparents how brave they were for learning to ride their bike or how determined they were learning to tie their shoes.

6. Ask for their help- When you are about to make a decision that will effect the family such as where to go on vacation or what restaurant to eat at go ahead and ask their opinion, your child will feel special knowing you love and respect their opinion. Make sure you ask them something that you intend on following through with once they choose.

7. Show your child affection. Physical contact is an expression of love that most children love to receive. Hug, kiss, cuddle and playful tickle games are sure ways to keep your child feeling special.

As much as we hate to admit it, our children will be up and gone before we know it. We need to take this little amount of time we have while they are young and instill self esteem and feelings of feeling special and loved so they will flourish as adults, not only that but when you look back you will be thankful for all the memories as well.

I’ll leave you with this final thought provoking and touching poem:

“If I had my had my child to raise over again:

I’d build self-esteem first and the house later
I’d finger paint more and point the finger less
I would do less correcting and more connecting
I’d take my eyes off my watch and watch with my eyes
I would care to know less and know to care more
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites
I’d stop playing serious and seriously play
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars
I’d do more hugging and less tugging
I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often
I would be firm less often and affirm much more
I’d model less about the love of power
And more about the power of love.”
~ Diane Loomans

 

 

 

 

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